Even though I have been through a divorce I still feel it is one of the biggest epidemics in our current society that isn’t being recognised or treated as such. I think it is crazy for people considering divorce to get advice from a divorce attorney.

Who would go to a divorce attorney for advice about their failing marriage? Many people, unfortunately. I had no idea until I found my marriage crumbling around my ears and I asked friends who had gone through a divorce who to get advice from. They all said a divorce attorney!

I was overwhelmed by this advice for one primary reason. Have people considering getting a divorce forgotten that a divorce attorney is the very last person who will be concerned with them repairing a broken marriage? A divorce attorney makes a living helping married people get divorced while getting as many benefits from the divorce as possible. So why would any nearly divorced person go to a divorce attorney in hopes of fixing their marriage? Beats me.

My advice to anyone struggling in their marriage is to make an appointment to visit a professional counsellor or a marriage and family therapist. This is because in general, counsellors and therapists are people who deeply want to see marriages and families restored rather than torn apart. And don’t forget a pastor or priest! Even if you don’t go to their church.

A divorce attorney is only for people who are sure that divorce is the option they are choosing. If, however, you are still unsure of your options and if you are still hoping for healing in your marriage, then a divorce attorney is the last person you should see. In my case it didn’t work going to a counsellor but it still was a better choice.